Today we picked out your headstone.

I woke up angry this morning. As soon as I opened my eyes I was angry. I did not want to go to the appointment at Holy Angels, but I knew that I needed to complete your resting place. Sure I could have waited months or years to choose your marker, but I wanted people to know that there is someone there and not carelessly cross over your grounds without acknowledging your presence.

Today was the first day in the process to select your headstone. It is a pillow top design and is made of granite. The color is black galaxy. It is black with gold glittering flakes throughout the stone. It is very sparkly and has a bedazzled look. The engraving is double process. This describes the deep etching of the letters and images on the marker. We will include a color picture of you. It is the same picture that was at the end of your services program.

Your marker will be engraved with your favorite flower, the hibiscus. It will be a custom engraving because your flower was not part of the samples available. That is so like you and me to want something that is above the basic plan.

I just realized that I want to change the layout of your name. I need to call the mortuary tomorrow. Right now we have it set for you on the right and room for me on the left. I saw one of you neighbors and they had the inscriptions horizontally, one on top of the other. I hope that this will allow for me to fit your middle name on the face of your marker. Delacia C. is different than Delacia Candelaria. I really love your middle name. Delightful Light.

I find a sense of peace in writing to you. I feel that my words reach you in some way.

Goodnight Sweetie. I love you.

Love,
Mommy